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by
Marvin X
Preface
By Marvin X
After a life of
failed relationships, I am now an authority on how to
fuck shit up. But I also learned how to keep peace in
the house by speaking the language of love and receiving
it from my beloved. Call it the tone test, if you will,
but the language of love will go a long way toward
healthy male/female relations or any human relations.
My mother told me I
didn’t need a wife but a maid, secretary, and mistress.
In the fourth quarter of my life, I must admit and
confess I think Mom was right. After someone read my
essay "Creativity and Sexuality," they said we must keep
a balance.
And this is true
except for those like myself who manifest the addictive
personality that consistently borders on the extreme,
somehow missing that balance that provides the stability
we need to survive and thrive in this turbulent world,
now racing toward The End!
I am much like
James Baldwin who said, “I had to live recklessly in
order to live at all.” And it seems I am also like the
Barakas who live with high drama. It is doubtful I would
be able to live a life without drama, being the
dramatist I am, although these days I try to stay in the
no stress zone, yet drama finds me at every turn. I am
fascinated with lesbians because interacting with them
is so dramatic.
There is a natural
dramatic tension when one desires what he can’t have!
It’s a challenge, even greater than seeking a
heterosexual woman, although she is fine with me,
especially if she has mastered the language of love and
doesn’t talk in a provocative language, i.e., don’t tell
me to do shit. I don’t have to do a motherfucking thang!
As the Maid, the
Ho, the Cook (see story inside) taught me, if you ask me
right, in the right tone, I will do anything and
everything, but if you come at me in a dictatorial
manner that expresses domination, you can’t get nothing
here! Matter of fact, I’ll do the opposite, as in kiss
my ass.
Today,
relationships are fragile at best because people are
under great stress generally: will we have a job
tomorrow, a house, a mate, sanity? So we can only take
things one day at a time. There is great insecurity
among the people, thus relationships are enduring major
stress.
Yet, we cannot get
out of these human relationships because love is all
there is, even living in the imagination will not
suffice, ultimately, we must leave our dream state to
encounter reality, and the reality is that we often
connect with people with whom we know and don’t know,
whom we love and don’t love, yet must love. It takes the
same energy to love as to hate, same energy. My favorite
song says, “The greatest thing you will ever learn is to
love and be loved in return.”
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Foreword
Sexuality is
determined by biology and social psychology. In the
socialization of humans, mythology plays a critical role
in manhood and womanhood training rites. Mythology lies
in the deep structure of the mental process, yet
mythical notions, stories, tales, ideas, values are
clearly present in the surface structure of human
behavior. Ritual behavior is simply the enactment of
mythology, the stories of the tribe, the values, mores,
manners, morals. Myths prescribe the acceptable and the
forbidden, the sacred and the profane.
Of course the
Shaman often transcends tribal mythology to extend the
narrative, take it to a higher level, much like a
Coltrane solo, or a Miles Davis tune, connected to the
past but very much into the present and future, the
unknown, into the space of fear and dread, and yet it is
beautiful, if we go there with Trane, Miles, Dolphy. So
mythology must be fluid, dynamic. There comes a time
when old myths must be discarded, thrown into the
dustbin of history. And so it is with the patriarchy or
myth of male domination.
In the
patriarchal or male dominated society, men are taught
they own women, that women are their personal property
or chattel real, as opposed to real estate, i.e., land,
buildings. Isn't it ironic that a people who are
descendants of chattel slaves would continue in the
tradition upon liberation, that they would perpetuate
relationship slavery, i.e., marriage, girlfriend,
boyfriend?
I don't
want to own nobody and surely don't want anyone to own
me. Imagine, the other day a brother said, "My pussy is
at home!" We tried to tell him, first of all, he doesn't
have a pussy, his woman has a pussy, so his pussy ain't
at home. And imagine when he arrives home and "his
pussy" is gone. When he locates "his pussy" will he be
happy, sad, angry, violent, for why wasn't his pussy at
home, why did it leave, or does it have the right to
leave? Maybe the sister was with her friends, telling
them, "Damn, ya'll, I got to go home to give that nigguh
some pussy." They reply, "Girl, you ain't gotta do that,
that's yo pussy, girl!"
In this
atmosphere, women can be verbally, emotionally, and
physically abused. They can be beaten and killed for
violating the man's so-called ownership of their bodies,
minds, and souls.
Clearly,
there is absolutely no difference in a woman stoned to
death in a Muslim society and shot to death in a
Christian society because of her supposed adultery
and/or infidelity. Of course, these days women are
shooting the men to death for their freedom of
expression or so-called sexual transgressions.
The man
is more often than not afforded hero status in Muslim
and Christian society for executing "honor killings"
because he was disrespected by "his" woman. These days
women are exercising their right to retaliate on the man
for his indiscretions since marriage myths and rites
suggest ownership by both parties, though man has the
ultimate authority in the patriarchal society.
Women
are now attending court mandated anger management
classes and receiving convictions for assault and or
homicide in the killing of their mates, all in the name
of love. Tina asked what does love have to do with it? I
ask, what kind of love is this—and if this is love I
don't want it!
If we
are to move toward healthy psychosocial sexuality, we
must examine the myths we live by. We may discover these
myths are toxic, reactionary, and detrimental to our
psychosocial health. We may need to transform and
radicalize these myths/rituals in the light of modernity
and post modernity or the new millennium.
In the
present era of spiritual consciousness, we cannot behave
as cave men and women. We cannot continue rearing little
cave children whose behavior befits the Stone Age,
bereft of compassion, willing to kill at the drop of a
hat because someone dissed them, especially their
girlfriend who gave up "her pussy" to a friend or
stranger.
We must
jump out of the box of ignorance, jealousy, envy,
religiosity, narrow mindedness, insecurity and the world
of make believe. We do not own other human beings. This
is called slavery by any word. Partners, boyfriends,
girlfriends, husbands, wives, must dispel and discard
mythical notions of ownership and domination.
Our
bodies are the temple of God, not the property of
another. No attachments but to God! We are slaves or
servants of God, Abdullah (we are all Abdullah, the
servant of God). This is the attitude of radical
spiritual consciousness. No one owns us but God. Our
life and death are for God. We are thus free to do as we
will since we exist in God and God exists in us. We are
indivisible from God, thus we are God, we are Divine.
Man is divine, woman is divine. We are equal beings in
the temple of God and the temple of God is the universe,
and all in creation is of God, by God and for God.
If you
desire to surrender yourself to your beloved, this is
your rite/right. In love, it is indeed all for the
beloved, love is the annihilation of self for the
beloved. Yes, we lose our "self" in the beloved. In my
play One Day in the Life, Karima says, "I sacrificed
everything for you, but you blew it buddy, I'm through
with you!"
We pray
you shall do the will of God in your relationships. If
you don't, no one can judge you but God, especially the
God in you or the self accusing spirit! Certainly, no
one has the right to beat or kill you, stone you to
death, shoot you in the head. Nor does anyone have the
right to verbally or emotionally abuse you because of
your behavior that may, from time to time, cross the
line of propriety. And as per sexual transgressions,
pussy and dick ain't nothing but a muscle, so why are
you tripping over flesh, a muscle?
Your
pussy belongs to you, your dick belongs to you and you
alone. It is attached to you, not your boyfriend,
girlfriend, partner, husband, wife, lover, trick! Human
beings are subject to do anything during the course of a
day, and you are free to do so. Vows of fidelity must be
thrown into the dustbin of history, along with Santa
Claus, the Easter bunny, and the return of a dead man
after two thousand years.
If you
persist in your wretchedness, ignorance and world of
make believe that you own someone's pussy and dick, your
mental health shall suffer along with the general
condition of society that is rapidly heading to the
precipice as we write. The mental hospitals, prisons and
jails shall remain full of those partner abusers guilty
of assault and/or homicide.
We urge
you to free yourself from the prison of your mind based
on primitive mythological notions of ownership and
domination. Indeed, love the one ya wit, but you don't
own them. You can't force them to do anything.
Why
can't we just get along, Rodney King asked? Why can we
love and be loved in return? Why must we be ugly to each
other, especially in the name of love? Why can't we love
without the negativity? Why must we hurt the one we
love, and yet, as Dr. Nathan Hare says, there can be no
master without one willing to be the slave. Just as I
cannot love you unless you allow me to love you, I
cannot hurt you unless you allow me to hurt you.
Love
begins with self love. If and when you don't love
yourself, you cannot love someone else. You can fake the
funk for a time. But if you don't know yourself, you
cannot know your partner and mate. You can be with them
twenty, thirty and forty years, but you don't know them.
This is why couples break up after ten, twenty, thirty
years together. They never knew each other, they were
faking the funk, but the funk caught up with them. Yes,
there was abuse because in their ignorance they first
abused themselves, then abused their mate or partner
simply because they never followed their own bliss or
purpose as Joseph Campbell taught us. Nancy Wilson said,
"I Never Been To Me!"
Indeed,
life is about getting to the real you, your mission and
purpose. When you cannot achieve this, in your
frustration, you are bound to oppress and dominate your
mate and those you love. Sadly, you have been programmed
by the American or Western mythology of Christianity and
Capitalism. You are thus the man and woman in the box.
You may deny you are in the box, yet your very existence
, and clearly your behavior with your mate is evidence
you are inside the box of Christianity and Capitalism.
In short, you are a slave, albeit a free slave, but a
slave none the less. In turn, you desire to enslave your
mate and children—Capitalism has programmed you to
desire cheap trinkets, things and more things,
conspicuous consumption, materialism, the world of make
believe.
Yet with
all your materialism, you have not followed your bliss,
you are totally devoid of spiritual consciousness. You
may be religious, yet your practice of religion is a
desire for prosperity that would be alien to Mary's
baby! You do not desire to liberate the captives, help
the poor, the broken hearted, the hungry, the homeless.
You are arrogant and wicked wearing your rocks, animal
skins and plastic clothes. Yet you are not happy, nor is
your mate. Even your children are little assholes,
ungrateful bastards!
You hide
the pain by medicating yourself with drugs, sex, video
and internet games, religiosity and other escapism from
your life of nothingness and dread.
We pray
one day you shall awaken and throw off the chains on
your brain, throw off the oppressive mythology of
Christianity and Capitalism, or any other oppressive
religion, including Islam, or any ideology that promotes
pie in the sky or other worldism, escapism from facing
reality with a radical agenda that is about seizing
power from the blood suckers of the poor, the global
bandits who promote the world of make believe.
How can
you be at peace with yourself and your mate while you
enjoy the benefits of a society that spends a trillion
dollars per year to commit mass murder around the world
to perpetuate a world of make believe, to keep people
deaf, dumb and blind, consuming trinkets that send them
directly to Yacoub's workers: the doctor, nurse and
undertaker.
It is
this mythological psychosocial order that has you drunk
with thinking you must own and oppress somebody,
especially those you supposedly love and cherish. Jump
out of the box—free yourself, your mate and your
children. Strive toward a radical spirituality that
oppresses no one, but frees everyone. Love should not be
slavery. Free your mind, free your mate, free humanity.
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September 2010
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Introduction
By Delores Nochi Cooper
Mythology of Pussy
and Dick is a compilation of everything Marvin X has
written on sexuality in America and the world. There
are those who will miss this opportunity to receive
wisdom from our brother because of the language he uses
to describe the male and female anatomy, and his
perceived objectification of women and men, and this is
a tragedy because this information is crucial for men
and women who are suffering from a psycho-linguistic
crisis and inflicting actual violence upon lovers in
their male/female and partner relations including, same
gender loving person relationships, and these
dysfunctional interactions are witnessed by children who
are the next generation of couples. They will emulate
what they see elders enact.
The same people who
dare judge his choice of words, his linguistic
dexterity, are guilty of lingering in the comfort of
their bedrooms watching shows on big screen TVs that
depict graphic details of violence perpetrated against
others, especially women, yet they call it
entertainment. If children learn more from what they see
than what we tell them, how will they process and act
upon the continued sexual chaos that is manifested in
our families and society?
The author has
proven himself to be a leader and a teacher who has the
best interest of the community at heart. He speaks truth
with language that can be understood by the least of us
and the best of us. His credentials includes brief
tenure at the finest institutions in America : Fresno
State University , 1969, University of California ,
Berkeley , 1972, Mills College , 1972, San Francisco
State University , 1974, University of California , San
Diego , 1975, University of Nevada , Reno , 1979.
He embraced the
system and defied the system! Oriented in the Muslim
tradition of polygamy or plural marriage (see his play
In the Name of Love, Laney College Theater production
1981); he has conquered his own demons and held his own
with associated intellectuals and psychopaths. In the
words of James Sweeney “…Courageous and outrageous, he
walked through the muck and mire of hell and came out
clean as white fish and black as coal.”
We all have war
stories about relationships gone bad. The difference
between Marvin X and the rest of us is that Marvin X has
lived what he is writing about, survived it and is
willing to talk about it, and holds nothing back,
narrated in language that will grab your attention and
cause you an epileptic seizure!.
Each story is rich
with commentary which speaks to society’s attitudes
about male and female relationships: rape, athletes,
toxic love, crack house sex, women without men, language
of love, religious persecution of women (a woman
stoned); gay and lesbian youth, same sex marriage, and
much more…
His parables are
commentary about events in real time is ingenious. If
you are a follower of his blog, then you know with each
daily entry he not only provides us with happenings
locally and nationally, but walks us through events from
a historical and global perspective.
Marvin X has chosen
to sensitize our society by using words like pussy and
dick. Language is fluid and if its primary use is
communication, and if through words one fails to hit the
target, then what is the point? It may be that the
author is before his time, and in future generations,
pussy and dick will become words of endearment, not
relegated to the present negative connotations. Perhaps
it will become a mantra chanted over and over as a
pre-sex ritual. Why not? Lord knows we could use some
more effective ways to get beyond reckless abandonment.
In his essay, "The
Maid, the Ho, the Cook," Marvin X demonstrates his tender
side. Lil Joe describes this story as “One of the most
beautiful pieces about real love I’ve ever read. The
image of "crack-heads" as scandalous and without human
dignity is destroyed by Marvin’s recollection of this
sister with whom he fell in love. Because the object of MX’s affection is for a whore, but there are those, and
you know who you are, who will lose the essence of this
story which addresses real feelings and real
interactions between a man and a woman. Perhaps, you
have only loved when it was safe to do so. But all of us
who have loved surely know that passion and feelings can
at times be both spontaneous and unsolicited.
Is Marvin X the only courageous one
among us who dares to “tell the truth and shame the
devil”?
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To get your
copy of
Mythology of Pussy and Dick
Marvin X is putting
the finishing touches on the expanded version of his
Mythology of Pussy and Dick: Toward Healthy
Psychosocial Sexuality. In its pamphlet form, this
is the most stolen book in history! We urge you to buy
two copies, one to hide and one for your coffee table so
your friends can easily steal it! Approximately 400
pages, $49.95.
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